The holidays are fast approaching and we recognize that the months ahead are some of the most difficult to manage. At our November meeting we will have guest speaker, Barbara Jarmon join us for awhile to discuss ways to help us through the holidays.
Frank Turner wrote an amazing song about his grief over his friend, Josh’s death that he recorded at the 9:30 club, where Josh worked. It is a song that is not only an expression of deep grief, but a reminder that there is always hope – if you are considering suicide, there is always help (1-800-273-8255).
WARNING, This video of that recording does have some f-bombs.
Lyrics: A Song For Josh “Why didn’t you call? My phone’s always on Why didn’t you call? Before you got gone
And I can’t say for certain what I would have said But now I am helplessly silent instead There’s a hole in my heart and in my head Why didn’t you call?
Why didn’t you say something, on the last time we met? Why didn’t you say something? There’s always hope left And I can’t say for certain what I would have done But I can’t do anything now that you’re gone And it kills me to think that for a second you felt alone
Now you can measure the mark of a man on the day that he died In the mixture of memory and wreckage that he leaves behind And I know you were carrying too much weight on the evening when you slipped away But I loved you like a brother, man, and I never really had a chance to say it.
So at half past nine each evening, I’ll think of my friend And at half past nine, I’ll remember you were better than your end ‘Cause I too have stood up on that ledge, But I know you’d have pulled me back down from the edge And I let you down in your darkness, I wasn’t there
So I’ll remember you making a hole through the kids in the crowd And I remember you lifting me up, each time I fell down And I’ll glance at the barrier when I’m watching the band And I’ll expect to see you there stood on the foot stand
But I guess I will see someone else That’s when I’ll whisper to myself Brother I miss you like hell”
Fall is in the air and with the winds of change also come a feeling of anxiety. The holidays are closing in, bringing a uneasy, unsettling feeling to most. It is no surprise that our subconscious feels these changes before they even happen. This is where TCF may be able to help. Our meetings consist of many who have been experiencing these changes for years, and have learned coping mechanisms. We will NEVER tell you how to grieve, however, we will offer support, hope, and ideas that have worked for us in the past.
Join us the second Tuesday of each month while we gather to listen, share, and create a safe environment for your grief.